Dear younger me (08/29/19)

Dear younger me,
Where do I begin? There's so much I'd like to say, but I don't know how much of it would make sense without you experiencing everything I have along the way. I guess the most important thing I want to tell you is that your value is not determined by the way people treat you. There are a lot of broken souls out there and they have hurt you and will do so many more times over the years. Choose empathy over anger. Try to understand them, but don't let their behavior make you doubt your self worth. You have a big heart and feel things acutely. Don't shut yourself down. Don't numb the pain. Apathy is not the answer.
Also, you're not weird. I mean, you are, but only because you are so aware of yourself and others, you have a hard time fitting into the status quo. This only makes you feel insecure because you haven't yet realized that everyone is a unique individual with quirky personalities, if they allow themselves to be. You have yet to realize that everyone around you acts the same because they are desperately trying to fit in, but are just as insecure as you are. Also, kids your age are stupid. Just be yourself.
Be yourself. You've already heard that phrase a thousand times. How can you be yourself when you don't know who you are? What I mean is, be as genuine as you can be. Don't change into who you think others want you to be. Otherwise, don't worry about it. Seriously. You're figuring it out and it's a journey, not a destination. I'm still learning about myself, but the difference between you and me is that I enjoy it now. Just accept that you're still figuring things out and all those hormones are wreaking havoc on your brain. I wish I could give you some pointers for that, but that's just a phase you get to look forward to being done with. In the meantime, stop drinking soda and eating pizza. They're terrible for your complexion. You're welcome.
Lastly, stop worrying. Just stop it. It literally does nothing to help anything. Don't live it twice. You'll tell yourself that in about a decade, so I'm giving you a head start. If it's going to happen, worrying about it is just you experiencing it before it does, so stop it. For the love of God, stop it.
I think that's pretty much it. Oh yeah, buy all the Bitcoin. All of it.
You've got a lot to look forward to. Enjoy the journey.

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